Kaeni noted that there are a lot of body-image issues during pregnancy that women have to deal with. “Part of me was like, ‘Am I not attractive anymore because I am a mom?’ I was happy to not have to see people’s reactions.”ĭr. Flores also felt relieved not to have to show her changing body to other people: “I was so nervous that I would get huge and swollen and wouldn’t want people to see me,” she said. “Luckily my mom was very strict and stayed inside, and we did as well so no one had to see each other.” (Once the baby arrived, her mother got on board and is now a supportive grandmother.) “My mom would not be OK with me having a child out of wedlock, and I was afraid to tell her, so I was glad to put it off until I was ready,” she said. When she got pregnant she was not married to her boyfriend, and she was relieved not to have to tell her mother and contend with her disapproval at such an emotionally fraught time. Other pregnant women are happy to keep their pregnancies a secret to avoid judgment from others.įabulous Flores, 30, a graduate student who lives in Absecon, N.J., gave birth to a girl in May. “It was a lot better not having to interact with other people when I was pregnant during the pandemic.” “Those questions were stressful,” she said. “People who knew me would bring up my daughter or tell me everything was going to be OK with this pregnancy, when there is no way they could know that.” “Especially women of the older generation would ask me questions like, ‘Are you carrying twins?’ ‘Is the baby healthy?’” she said. Paras did receive unsolicited questions and advice. “It can be incredibly stressful to field questions from people who have the best of intentions but don’t know how their questions are landing or how they can feel minimizing or insensitive,” Dr. This is particularly true of women who have high anxiety or have experienced pregnancy loss like Ms. “The ability to keep it from other people because of Zoom has benefited a lot of people.” “Many of the women I have seen during the pandemic have chosen not to tell people they are pregnant until they feel ready,” said Katayune Kaeni, a psychologist who specializes in perinatal mental health. With that comes the freedom to talk about their pregnancy when they are comfortable and when they feel it won’t harm them professionally or psychologically. But the pandemic has transformed the reality for many others, allowing pregnant women to stay out of sight of colleagues (if they are working remotely) and friends and family, since socializing is so limited. Some women, especially frontline workers, still don’t have that choice. They had to go to work and social events, and once they started showing it was obvious they were expecting. In prepandemic times most pregnant women, of course, didn’t have the luxury of deciding when they shared their news. “I wish there was a way for women to be able to hide they were pregnant even without a pandemic,” she added. “I had my space to feel whatever I wanted, and I could stay in my own bubble.” I didn’t have to listen to people tell me it would be OK or to stop being scared,” she said. “Keeping it a secret made my pregnancy so much more peaceful. Her unvaccinated son gave her the perfect excuse to stay at home and away from gatherings so no one could see her growing belly. While the pandemic added to her anxiety, it also gave her a way to avoid seeing anyone and sharing her news. “With Covid and how pregnant women are so susceptible, the whole pregnancy I was terrified I was going to die or she was going to die,” she said. (In addition to Harlow, she has a son who is 2.) Covid added to the anxiety she already felt about being pregnant, and she didn’t want to jinx it.
WHEN TO ANNOUNCE PREGNANCY ON SOCIAL MEDIA SERIES
She had a series of miscarriages, and a newborn baby girl had died. Paras had had traumatic experiences with past pregnancies. He was like, ‘Dude, why didn’t you tell me?’” What? When? Where? How?’ She was the most shocked of anybody,” Ms. Paras, 31, a stay-at-home mother in Anaheim, Calif., hadn’t told anyone outside of her parents and her husband’s parents that she was pregnant. But this one was especially startling because Ms. “Everyone meet our little bat Harlow Phoenix Paras,” she wrote.Īll baby announcements are somewhat of a surprise no one can ever be sure when a baby will be born.
25, Genesis Paras announced to her family and friends over Instagram that she had a new baby girl.
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